Why should I have a Wedding Gift List?
Wedding gift lists are a great way to ensure that all the gifts you and your partner receive on the day are things that you actually want. This ensures that you don’t end up with multiple toasters or kettles – especially when you already have a perfectly good one of each in the kitchen! Most wedding gift list services will remove the item from the list once purchased, and you can choose whether you want to be able to see what has been bought or dedicate a close friend or family member as the wedding gift list manager. Because who doesn’t love a surprise!
Having a wedding gift list makes things easier not only for you and your partner, but for your guests as it removes any confusion as to what you might want. Not to mention the fun of feeling young again, remembering the joy of circling toys in the Argos catalogue in the run-up to Christmas!
What to put on a Wedding Gift List
Traditionally, wedding guests would purchase homeware for the newly wedded couple to enjoy in their new love nest together. In these modern times, many couples have cohabited for years before they choose to marry, so homeware can seem a bit of an awkwardly traditional gift to buy for such a couple. Nevertheless, tradition is tradition and homeware is still the most common gift for newlyweds. Other wedding gifts include crystal glasses, fine china dinner sets and all sorts of home appliances. If you and your partner already live together, perhaps consider the things in your home that could do with being replaced or upgraded so that you can still list a selection of traditional wedding gifts for your guests who prefer the classics.
The modern wedding gift list, however, can include more contemporary items. Just remember to choose items that are personal for the both of you. Maybe you first met at a music festival, you could put on your wedding gift list two tickets for that next music festival. Guaranteed to bring a smile to the faces of your friends who remember that that’s where you first met. Choose things that you can both enjoy and benefit from. Those shoes you’ve been eyeing up online? Maybe leave that for your birthday wish list…
You always want more wedding gifts on your list than you have wedding guests. This way, there’s plenty of choice and the last person to purchase a gift won’t be stuck with little options. It also means that your friends and family won’t be limited to buying a single gift. Many people prefer to buy multiple little gifts rather than one big one, so you need to have that option available. It’s far better to have too many items on your wedding gift list than too little!
When you are choosing what to put on your wedding gift list, make sure to include a range of different price points, so those on a budget will be more comfortable purchasing a gift for you, and those who are happy to spend a little bit more are able to do so. A good rule of thumb is to split the list equally into thirds. Depending on the demographic of your wedding guests, perhaps a third under £30, a third between £30 and £100, and a third of gifts over £100. But keep these price barriers subtle and don’t divide into three obvious lists of “cheapskates”, “mid-range” and “high rollers”! Some friends may band together to buy you one of the more expensive items on the list, while others may select a range of smaller gifts as they hold a more personal relationship to those particular gifts. (Perhaps they were there at the music festival!)
Wedding Gift List Etiquette
Don’t ask for money! If you are saving up for something special in particular, like the honeymoon or even a home makeover, state that instead as an option on your wedding gift list. Allow people to donate toward the honeymoon in addition to, or instead of, a gift on the gift list. People like to know where their money is going.
Keep a note of all the gifts that you receive and who gave them. It’ll come in handy when time comes to write your personalised Thank You notes after the wedding. And while we’re on the subject of Thank You notes, avoid boilerplate messages like: “Dear Uncle Neil, Thanks for the cutlery! Love me and the other half xx”. Add a personal touch like: “You’ll have to come round for dinner soon and try them out!”
It should be obvious really but… don’t open your presents before the wedding! Not just out of courtesy but, should the wedding unfortunately not go ahead, for whatever reason, traditionally the gifts must be returned.